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If you suspect that your partner or spouse is not being faithful or is having an affair their are many methods that can be used to find out the truth. This article will cover some of the basics that anyone can do with know special equipment or training.

If you would like to use a more “high tech” approach such as spy cameras or GPS trackers please visit an online spy store.

The first thing that you should do is keep a detailed record of reported activities of your partner or spouse. Write down the times, dates, places, other people involved, excuses given, etc. The notes that you take will be indespensable to you when comparing what is told to you with ATM receipts, telephone bills statements etc. A cheating partner is likely to change his or her story, and if confronted will most likely question your memory, so keeping a detailed record of everything is extremely important.

Keep track of all incoming phone calls. Record the time and number of all calls.

Go through the trash, his or her wallet, purse, pockets etc. when they are not around. If your partner is going to restaurants, bars, movies or anywhere else with their suspected lover there will be receipts and they will surely want to get rid of them. Chances are that they will get reckless and throw them in the trash or hide them in the car. If you find anything that you are suspicious of or cannot explain save it as evidence or write down the details and put the receipt back where you found it so that he/she does not get suspicious. Your partner is already being secretive so do not let them know that you are suspicious of them or they will go to even greater lengths to cover their tracks.

Plan a surprise visit to work, or come home at unexpected times, or tell your partner that you have to work late, but then come home early, etc..

Keep track of your partner’s mileage, receipts, credit card statements, atm withdrawals (unaccounted for cash), phone records, etc.

If you can, check your Partner’s call log. Look for phone numbers with an unusual number of calls. Keep in mind that cheating spouses often store their lover’s phone number under someone else’s name (a friend, a co-worker, etc.).

Unless you have enough evidence to make your case you should never confront your spouse. And never reveal all of your evidence at once. Many cheatering spouses will try to make up a story that fits with the evidence that they know about. But, if you withhold some evidence, and let your spouse/partner create a story, it gives you the opportunity to use the remaining evidence as leverage. By strategically withholding evidence, your spouse will start to question exactly how much you know, increasing the chance that he or she will tell the truth.

If you find anything suspicious, do not confront your spouse until you’re certain that you have enough evidence to get a confession or you are satisfied in your mind as to what is going on.

Think for a minute about how your partner might try to dismiss your accusations (we were just joking around, I was just flirting, it was a misunderstanding, we are just friends, nothing happened, etc.). If you can anticipate how your partner is likely to respond, you can try to gather the evidence you need to counter what he or she says.

The main thing to remember is to save everything, take meticulous notes and be diligent in your investigation.

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